The situation is just intolerable.
There have been a lot of really insightful write-ups recently. A broader perspective—and I almost cringe to say—catch-all by Molly Crabapple left me gasping for breath. This write up, by Elizabeth Sampat giving her thoughts on an industry that’s very dear to me, delivered the final blow and left me in tears.
It’s really rare that I create from a place of grief. It’s just not how I operate. But it’s largely what I have openly felt for the last few days, and reflecting on it, it’s been there for far longer.
This quote from Elizabeth’s piece— “We should have a war memorial for all of the women we have lost to this. We should lay flowers and grieve and see our reflections in stone.”— struck a very literal chord in me.
So yeah, here it is. A place just for me where I can light a candle and remember all of the wonderful people I probably will never get the chance to meet. Folks that have been driven away by these horrible fucks that have the audacity to think they know what gaming and community is about.
I have never, in my life, been ashamed to call myself a gamer. Until now. These misogynist little shitbags are a disgrace to our community.
All of us who care about gaming need to step up and save our community, while there is still something about it that’s worth saving.
RIP women like me. This is beautiful.
I refuse to be added to or thought of as a casualty though. I can keep going. But those who couldn’t or can’t, you are missed. Your voices are missed. I hope I can help carry your memory forward and continue to say “never again”.
Until the game industry/community has active channels of support for survivors of rape and sexual assault in the industry, and mechanisms to prevent developers who commit rape and sexual assault from continuing to do that, in a way that is peaceful and brings about permanent positive change, I’m gonna have a real hard time believing shit about shit.
And this is just, like, one thing I see the deeply enmeshed communities of Game Industry and Consumers of Games (note how it’s often difficult to talk about the industry without also having to assume discussion of the community of fans) needing to address.
"Saving" or whatever is nice, but fundamental structural changes…f-fundamentally change things, and that will probably feel uncomfortable.
We know what white people (hi) and men, and especially white men, are like when they’re uncomfortable. They turn into misogynist, racist, entitled little shitbags. I don’t see that changing even if everyone sent Zoe a dollar for every word of abuse she’s received (which hey we should also do, where’s the Indiegogo to help pay for this woman’s long-term emotional health, if everyone’s so damn sorry?).
The hatred of women runs wide and deep in games, it won’t end when Zoe’s not getting harassed every day, it won’t be gone when Anita’s series is done, it wasn’t gone when I left games, it didn’t disappear when Maddy Myers stopped going to public fighting games tournaments, it didn’t go away when Jade Raymond stopped being the face of the Assassin’s Creed series (these are just the names off the top of my head, writing into the little XKit reblog window right now)
…and meanwhile FYI sexual assaults happen at and around all your fave big tent-pole gamer and game industry events, and throughout the industry all the time, because misogynist little shitbags don’t just PLAY games they also MAKE them. But who wants to report on a colleague, who *doesn’t* want to sign up for this sort of experience (but coming from your coworkers, and at work events)?
(But I’m supposed to have #1reasonwhy I’m excited a woman wants to work in that industry.)
As a woman who plays games, I would like to point out that not everyone is like this. My husband gets genuinely disappointed if I don’t like a game as much as him.
There is also the guy who’s always working at GameStop when I go in, who is very nice and never talks down to me because I’m a girl. If I’m there for my husband, he will explain to me details of something so I can relay it when I see him, and if it’s for both of us he is more than willing to chat about the games coming out soon or whatever.
Granted, I have also experienced the guys at the GameStop where we lived in North Carolina, who talked to me like I was an idiot when I came in by myself and smiled indulgently (like, “Oh, how cute, she wants to play Assassin’s Creed.” You bet your ass; I am merciless with those Templar assholes) when I was there with my husband.
So it’s not like I’m not aware that sexism goes on. I’ve experienced it first hand in many different contexts. It just bums me out that these jerks are giving a bad name to all men within a community, because I have encountered plenty that not only accept female gamers, but encourage them.
North American River Otters
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please get this cat tube out of the water
So one time my dad bought a skeleton for Halloween, and one day he decided to place it in the kitchen to scare me and it went too far…
This is fucking hilarious. I’m gonna go ahead and file this under “when I’m a parent”
Hahahahahahahaha “I have this joke that I’m waiting to use but no one asks me the right set up question.”
I haven’t seen my name on a coke bottle yet. I’m very sad about that.
First world problems.
Chris Pratt worked with Marvel and Children’s Miracle Network Hospital to arrange a special screening of Guardians of the Galaxy for patients, families and staff at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles Wednesday. While the movie played, Pratt snuck out and dressed up as his character, Star-Lord. He spent more than three hours in full costume and handed out movie-themed toys. Pratt also visited patients in the Bone Marrow Transplant Unit, the Children’s Center for Cancer and Blood Diseases, and the Pediatric ICU, as they were too sick to join the movie screening that afternoon.
Pratt spent extra time with one patient, Dylan Prunty, who is a longtime Lego fan and recognized the actor’s voice from The Lego Movie. They spent about 10 minutes reciting different scenes from the film.
So adorable. He seems like such a nice guy
"My, I bet you monsters lead interesting lives. I said to my girlfriend just the other day - Gee, I’ll bet monsters are interesting, I said. The places you must go and the places you must see, my stars! And I’ll bet you meet a lot of interesting people, too. I’m always interested in meeting interesting people."
As a kid I had no idea what the joke was here but I loved it so much.
To that: I’ve never bought it when executives would complain, “It’s too obscure, you need to make it relevant to today’s 18-34…” etc. Nonsense. A child of five can understand the dynamic here and that something funny is going on and still enjoy it. The kid doesn’t then complain to mother, “I know it’s funny but is it relevant to my age group?” Especially if there are older siblings laughing.
Bugs is a towering legend.
So I tried singing Those You’ve Known once and suddenly found myself singing the right tune, but the lyrics to On My Own. I decided to see how close the two songs really are. Answer: Very.
NO FUCKING WAY THIS IS CRAZY
This is like that Train song and Phantom of the Opera…